Celebrating birthdays – whose job is it anyway?

Sister’s remark stabs

I received a phone call from my sister the other day that made me feel bad. I have a birthday this week and she asked me if I was “excited.” Hmmmm. My sister isn’t planning anything, so was she asking in hopes that someone else had planned something? My husband has made reservations at a restaurant that I know will be lovely, and I am looking forward to it. It’s the dinner, not the turning a new number. How can you be “excited” unless there’s something to look forward to? I’m not a fan of surprise parties, and now I know why. There’s nothing to look forward to! Bottom line, don’t ask if someone is “excited” unless you’re giving them a reason to say yes! Anyone else had a similar experience? – Jill M. in IN

NuKazoo readers shared their experiences:

When it comes to birthdays, I’ve learned never to expect, but receive graciously.

– G.P. from IL

My experience is that sometimes people speak before they think. Your sister should have asked you if you have any plans for your birthday.

– Jocelyn W.

It’s easy to read into things people say. We talked about this issue, and decided that when we’ve done what you’re doing, we both try to think about our expectations and see if they’re reasonable. Just because you may celebrate other people’s events doesn’t obligate them to celebrating yours.

– C.L. and J.L. in Chicago

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